Wednesday, November 25th, 2009
Whenever I’d go to meet a woman from the internet, I’d always imagine that the woman was 350 pounds and REALLY hairy… just like the “encounter” I had.
And I’d keep thinking this up UNTIL I’d meet them in person.
I know, I know, it’s a funny mental picture.
Oh, and cut a brother some slack. Everyone gets fooled now and then.
With every interaction I PLAYFULLY tease them about it, how they’re not really that attractive and those aren’t really their pictures.
They stole them from some soap opera magazine or something.
They sit on the couch all day with their laptops eating bonbons.
I keep it fun.
It’s light, fun and it makes them laugh. When you do this with a PLAYFUL intent, women aren’t sure if you’re serious but they are compelled to prove you wrong.
My advice to Bill is to stick with the Insider Internet Dating System and use the “2nd email technique” to get her phone number.
This woman is asking a lot of questions, which means she’s intrigued. Knowing this you are able to use this to your advantage to get the phone number and move things offline.
Remember this formula: Mystery = Intrigue = Interest.
If you answer everything in detail like she wants then you loose that intrigue. You don’t want to do that through emails, or even the phone because that leaves you nothing to talk about in person.
Answer her questions, not all of them, maybe 1 or2 of them and keep them short.
Don’t make the mistake of writing a book. As a busy guy you don’t have time to send these long emails anymore.
Since you used Insider Internet Dating and haven’t given her value like 99% of the other guys have, you have given yourself a HUGE head-start over your competition.
She’ll start to chase after you and will start trying to “prove” herself to you.
Until you meet her, she’s just another email and face. Nothing more.

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Tuesday, November 24th, 2009
The basic idea is to not give a woman value/status UNTIL she earns it.
Think about that statement for a moment.
Most guys do exactly what Bill did — give a woman value/status based on… her physical appearance.
You are not complimenting her. Great.
But your mindset is flawed because you view her as something you have to “get”, meaning you have to try to get her.
Stay with me here.
Even though you know better than to compliment her, she can tell you want something from her and you chasing after her — and she’s the prize.
YOU NEED TO LEARN ABOUT “DEVALUATION”
“Devaluation” is a process where you systematically lower someone’s value to you.
This can be done overtly, by saying specific things.
One of the things I learned from Mystery, Style and studying other PUA’s would be “negs”.
A more powerful “devaluation” process is one you do internally.
For instance, I always think back to my worst experiences and imagine to myself:
“what if this girl ends up looking like THAT girl did?”
What kind of devaluation visualizations can you come up with?
Maybe you had a REALLY bad experience one time (or more), maybe you were “stuck” with a girl for the whole evening. Use that.
If you’re having a hard time thinking about how to actually APPLY this mindset “in real life”, you’re not alone.
Now you have help. use this example I use myself:
IMAGINE HER AS AN MIDDLE AGED, “BEAT UP”,
NASTY LOOKING, 350 POUND, WOMAN WITH
FACIAL HAIR!
So everything I say comes from that place.
This may sound like backwards logic to a normal guy not familiar with Insider Internet Dating.
Remember, she could really be 350 pounds and hairy for all you know.
Imagine how you’d feel… putting a woman on this pedestal, meeting her and finding out she looks NOTHING like her pictures.
Again, the answer is crystal clear: Don’t trust what you THINK you see because your mind plays “tricks” on you.
You need to be skeptical. That’s the difference in mindset from the guys who are successful with this and those who aren’t. These guys are PLAYING the SYSTEM, not BEING PLAYED by it.
Learn to develop your own “devaluation” tactics and watch your results with women skyrocket. If you’re not you’re at a serious disadvantage!
Why?
Because “devaluation” give us an upper hand in our interactions with women. The end result is women “pick up” the need to qualify themselves to you.
Remember what I said earlier:
If your daily “internal dialog” is telling you that you need to be careful of making the right moves because you’re afraid you’ll blow it…
Then the subconscious gestures and verbal and non-verbal messages you send will reflect that.
The key then is to change that internal dialog to a positive one that lets you truly feel you are the prize and she should pursue you.
Bill needs to take a deep breath and relax. Treat her like every other woman, make her earn value with him.
Bill’s a successful guy with his life together so why should he elevate this woman he knows nothing about?
More often than not its because of her looks and because we as men want to GET something from the women.
I know because I used to do the same thing.
WOMEN CAN SMELL THIS COMING A MILE AWAY!
Next, a “devaluation” technique I learned to do after an “encounter” with a woman who turned out to be 350 pounds and hairy.
(No lie!)

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