10 KILLER Internet Dating Tips
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Internet Dating Tip #1 –
Mention Something About Her Profile
One of the easiest ways for women to know you’re sending a form message is by not mentioning anything about her profile. So when you’re emailing her, make sure you mention a thing or 2 about her profile in your initial email.
Women will know when you’re mass mailing out these emails UNLESS you customize each one to them (or use my “cut and paste” messages here I’ve already tested to work)
A few years ago it wasn’t the case, but with more and more men using dating sites and the competition heating up, you gotta stay ahead of the masses if you wanna be successful.
So make sure you tailor each email to her.
It should only take a few more minutes per email so its not that big of a deal but it WILL increase your results vs. not adding anything in.
Internet Dating Tip #2 –
Add A Call To Action
A big mistake most men make is they leave their emails open ended almost as if they’re waiting for her to make the move (sure sign of a wuss). What I mean by that is most emails guys send have no goal or desired result.
What I’ve learned over the years is that each communication should have a purpose/desired result.
What do you want her to do as a result of reading that email?
I know you want her to respond, so tell her that. Let her know that if she’s interested you’d like to hear back from her.
You can say something like:
“you seem pretty cool, lets continue this… if you think you can handle it :-)”
Or something similar.
The point is, you need to lead her and tell her what you’d like her to do as a result of reading your email, otherwise you end up in a ping pong match of email after email after email… she’ll assume you’re scared to meet up… and never end up meeting (isn’t that the point? to meet in person?)
Internet Dating Tip #3 –
Use Spell Check
Oh man… I can’t even believe I’m talking about this one but its worth mentioning because so many men screw this up and make themselves look like complete retards.
Just make sure you have no spelling errors when you’re messaging women online. I mean, I’m not saying you gotta be an english major or anything, but just make sure stuff is spelled correctly.
There’s nothing worse than a woman you want to meet, reading your email and saying to herself, “Wow, this guy can’t spell.”
Doing so totally gives off the wrong impression and puts you behind the 8 ball from the get-go.
It takes 30 seconds to run a spell check in your word processing program (15 minutes if you use Microsoft WORD. LOL)
Internet Dating Tip #4 –
Ask A Female Friend
This is something I’m shocked more men don’t do. Once you’ve gone through and reworked your profile, go ahead and ask a female friend of yours or female coworker you’re friendly with to have a quick look at it and give you her opinion on it.
If you’ve got an odd sense of humor, it might come off as you being VERY weird and might scare off some women, so DON’T try too hard when writing your profile.
Remember, the goal of the profile is to let women know you’re a cool, confident, classy, charismatic guy.
If there’s any big red flags in your profile you need to be aware of that could potentially scare women off, a female friend is likely to spot them before you’ve emailed all the women in your area you wanna meet.
Think of your profile as a brochure. Its a point of reference for women to go back to.
Internet Dating Tip #5 –
“Show & Tell”
This will help a lot of guys very quickly.
One big problem I see men make with their profiles is there’s no consistency between what they write and the photos they show. For example… lets say your profile talks about you liking adventure, traveling and fishing…. yet your photos show you doing everything else BUT those things.
Well guess what happens? It’s incongruent.
If you say that you’re athletic, then give an example of what types of sports/activities you enjoy. If you say that you like movies, which ones? State it, then back it up with something a bit more detailed.
Show her something in your photos, then tell her about it in your profile. Works like magic.
Make sure your profile and photos are congruent and match each other.
Internet Dating Tip #6 –
Change Your Photos
Women I talk to tell me it’s very tacky and women typically will laugh at it, regardless of how great your 6 pack abs are.
I always recommend using the photos to show off your lifestyle… just like we talked in the previous tip. Give women a glimpse of what you’re like, what type of life you lead.
Have a photo in a suit. Its classy and women always love a man in a suit and tie.
If you’re balding, thats o.k. don’t wear a hat in every picture because women will think thats being deceitful. They want to see what’s up before they meet you.
Listen, whatever issue you have about your looks/body make it her problem not yours.
You’re a great guy and you need to project that to each and every woman you meet.
Internet Dating Tip #7 –
No Winks (or Free Contacts)
A LOT of guys will send these winks/teases or other free communications these dating sites offer and if yo’ve been reading this blog or on my newsletter for any amount of time, you know this is a HUGE mistake.
It shows that you’ve got no confidence and are waiting for the woman to make the first move. (which tells women you are a WUSS)
Remember that women love confident men and by sending a wink, she knows right away that you lack confidence, which just so happens to be the #1 thing that attracts women.
It’s o.k. if she sends you a wink but sending her a wink isn’t going to work well for you.
Internet Dating Tip #8 –
Get Her Number Already!
If you’re a reader of this newsletter, you know that I preach getting her number the SECOND time you email her.
It shows that you’re busy, you don’t have time for these ‘online relationships’ and you are able to take CONTROL.
Keep in mind, the longer you wait to ask her for her number, the lower her interest becomes. Remember, she’s also getting 10-50-100 emails a day from other men WHILE she’s emailing you, so you gotta strike while the iron is hot and her interest is high.
Internet Dating Tip #9 –
Humor Is Your Ultimate Weapon
Most guys are so “stiff” when they finally do talk to a women they met online… they’re way too formal. When you finally do get her on the phone (or in person), make sure you make her feel comfortable. The best way I know how to do this is by using HUMOR.
Remember, she’s probably a bit nervous talking to some random guy that she met on the internet, so your first objective is to make sure she doesn’t think you’re creepy or weird. Most guys do this by committing a serious sin… T.M.I. (aka verbal diarrhea of the mouth)
Once you’ve done that, your next goal should be to make her laugh…
One of the best ways I’ve found to break the ice is to talk about funny experiences that you’ve had while doing internet dating. If you haven’t been out with anyone yet, you can talk about some funny emails you may have gotten. (we’ve all gotten them)
it’s a great way to break the ice. Use it
Internet Dating Tip #10 –
Have A Plan
Look, it all goes back to this: When it comes to online dating, knowing a little or just enough could be DANGEROUS. You have to go full throttle or you’ll only get to first base – or strike out altogether.
Listen, what good is getting a woman to respond to your e-mail if you can’t get her phone number?
What good is getting her phone number if you don’t know how to carry on a conversation and get her to agree to go out on a date with you?
What good is getting a date if you don’t know how to create attraction and know how to get physical with her?
You get my drift.
Having a killer profile — but no killer strategies when sending out e-mails or making the first phone call or going on the first date — can lead to incongruence, which equals dating failure.
You gotta know what to do every step of the way.
Alright guys, there ya go.
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