3 Techniques That Get Women Emailing You

By Dave M.




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Hey there, hope everything is goin’ well in your world.

Man… there’s one question that fills up my inbox each week… There’s one question I get asked over and over again from men all over the world who want to meet women online…


The sad truth is… MOST men haven’t got the slightest clue what it really takes to attract hot women online — or they’d already be doing it.

Don’t worry, I’ve been there too. When I first started online dating, I would send out hundreds of emails a month and would get pretty much ZERO replies.

Sure I’d get the usual 350 pound chick messaging me…. the ‘russian mail order bride’,or the chick that SEEMS normal (until you find out she’s a psychotic lunatic), but never any of the women I really wanted to meet.

I was SO Frustrated.

I didn’t know what the problem was, even worse, I had no clue how to fix it.

I did what most guys do… keep sending more messages, majority of which never were replied to, which I later found out to be a big mistake.

One day I realized something…

“If I’m getting 0% results now and I keep sending more messages, I’m STILL gonna have 0% results.”


Then it hit me: I needed to improve my results FIRST, then, once I did, I could start sending more messages.

Now I realize this is a MAJOR difference compared to what most guys do. Most guys are getting almost no response, but they keep on sending more messages THINKING this is gonna work.

It’s not.

What I learned (through months and months of hair-pulling frustration and agonizing rejection) was that I needed to change my messages and figure out which ones worked BEFORE I started mass emailing women. Once I found something that worked, I figured I could duplicate it and use it over and over again.

Are You Tired Of An Empty Inbox?

In just a minute I’m going to give you 3 “themes” you can use in your messages to women that will get you more responses than you know what to do with. Before I do, here’s a lil’ something for you to think about…

Most guys have this idea that their picture is the most important part of meeting women online, however nothing could be further from the truth.

Sure, your picture is important… and looking good does help, but for the rest of us (who don’t look like brad pitt), the most important part of meeting chicks online your first email.

Lets cut the BS…  If you can’t get women to respond to your messages, it doesn’t matter how good looking you are, it doesn’t matter how great your pictures are or how well written your profile is. You’re screwed.

You with me?

So where do people go wrong?

Where have YOU gone wrong?

Why AREN’T YOU already meeting many more WOMEN through your online dating?

Creating Those Winning Emails Is The Hard Part

If you can write emails that make women online feel ATTRACTION for you INSTANTLY and gets them to give you their phone numbers… you’re set… for life.

Trust me, it’s an amazing feeling when you send a bunch of emails and have this raging flood of response from hot, sexy women wanting to meet you. In fact, here’s a screenshot from my inbox:

121 NEW emails from girls want to talk to me just because of what I mailed them.

All in a days work I suppose 🙂

You read it right. That’s one hundred twenty one women…. on one account, on one site. Just from sending some ‘copy and paste’ emails.

Do you know of anyone who can match that? I don’t think so.

And let me tell you… having this many women to chose from will make your life very interesting.

So, the question is…

How Do YOU Get Women To Respond To Your Messages?

Here’s what you gotta understand BEFORE sending any messages: In most cases, women are getting bombarded with DOZENS of  stupid, boring, lame emails each day and from what women tell me, (and from what I know setting up my ‘recon profiles’),  most of the emails are horrible and end up being deleted.

You’re not guilty of sending messages like these to women online, are you?

If it was up to me, I’d make it so your computer would actually BITCH SLAP any man that sends those boring, lame emails.

What I’m about to teach you will (hopefully) change how you communicate with women online forever and give you the power to meet the women you want to meet, instead of settling for the women who chose you.


1. Make sure your email is NOTHING like the ones other men are sending women. If you set up a ‘Recon’profile, you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about.
Knowing what most guys are writing will help you avoid the most common pitfalls and save you a TON of time.

2. You need to model what already works. You’re essentially going to duplicate something that already works, then slightly ‘tweak’ it to fit your personality.

I pretty much have this internet dating thing down to a science and have literally cracked the code to hooking up with as many women as I want using dating sites… There’s no one else in the industry who understands this thing like I do, and I’m going to let you in on a big secret and show you how I create these email templates.

So with further ado… Heres 3 email “themes” that attract women online…


This is probably the EXACT OPPOSITE approach from what most guys are doing. You see, most guys are emailing women online and they are trying to “GET” something from her… and the women know this. They smell the desperation 100 miles away. So by taking this route, you’re conveying to the women online that you have a criteria and you aren’t just going to take any woman that comes along (very important).

This increases a womans interest and desire for you…. Why?

Because being skeptical means you aren’t trying to get something from her…. which is different than other guys, and being skeptical means you are a CHALLENGE (something women are craving from men).

Ok, so when you’re using this, you want to be a little skeptical about what you’re reading and seeing online. You want to give her the sense of “I’m not really sure about you…”

“thought you seemed kind of interesting, but I’m not too sure about you… yet.”

Naturally, she’ll reply trying to win you over.

Game on.


This one is great. When you’re using this, you can mention something funny about all the “weird” emails she’s getting (If you set up the recon profile, feel free to use the emails as the jokes).

If she’s online, I PROMISE you she’s getting bombarded with one stupid, boring, lame email after another…. and she’s even showing some of them to her friends.

This is why I wanted you to set up the recon profile, it will give you SO much ammo for your emails.

Once you have a recon profile up and you start getting all these emails from OTHER guys, you’ll be armed to the T with material to use here. There IS a method to the madness!


If there’s one thing we all know about meeting chicks online is this: Many guys don’t do is read women’s profiles. Trust me, women know this also.

Knowing this, you can use it to your advantage…

When you’re taking this approach, mention something about her profile that you found interesting, but the trick is, you gotta do it in a different way than every other guy is doing it or else you’re hosed.

Do it wrong and you’ll come off sounding like a TOTAL WUSS.

The other mistake most men make with this is they write emails to each woman from scratch. Just because you’re making the email unique, doesn’t mean you can’t use the same basic “template” and then customizing it to fit each girl you’re messaging 🙂

Thats what I would do.

She’ll assume you sent an email just to her.

Well, there ya have it… I’m sure I left a few off the list… in the comment section below I’d love to hear about any that you know of that I forgot to mention… or your personal experience with any of the ones I listed above.

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7 Comments to 3 Techniques That Get Women Emailing You

  1. Stylish and Cool Look, the New Blog, just like its owner. 😉

    Comment by Blake — @ 11:55 PM

  2. Cool insight but since your willing to share some info. How about handing out a email template for us to try out?

    Comment by Myke — @ 2:19 PM

  3. Myke, buy the program you cheapskate!

    Comment by Mike — @ 6:49 AM

  4. Amazed at how easy, and simple this was and how well it works. I have done nothing but change the way I write my emails, and it’s made a huge difference in the amount of responses.

    Comment by Jeff — @ 8:13 AM

  5. Hey Myke, that’s what the IID program is for. 😉

    Comment by Sean — @ 9:15 AM

  6. Already use this system but this extra material is always helpful…

    Comment by Jules — @ 1:14 PM

  7. Can you give some simple examples what REALLY works?

    Comment by A reader — @ 6:51 AM

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