The King of Negative Personal Ads

By Dave M.




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If you haven’t seen this New Yorker article yet, you need to check it out:

This is actually a very powerful story.

Here’s why – It talks about people who are posting “negative” personal ads, along with the type of results they’re getting by using them (I was surprised).

I think they’re hitting on an important point here.

The author also interviews a self-professed ‘king of negative personal ads’, a 43 yr old guy and after reading the article, a few light-bulbs went off…

While most men are trying their hardest to impress women and make themselves seem like the perfect guy, this man is doing something RADICALLY DIFFERENT.

This guy used to be a “nice”, sweet, BORING guy who probably did lots of nice things for women, acted respectful, and generally was everything we all thought a “good guy” should be.

What does this get us?

I don’t need to answer that question, because you know as well as I do what it gets us. Of course, his success with meeting and attracting women online was horrible.

Here’s a hint: It has to do with this concept…  average is BORING, and boring is NOT the way to create ATTRACTION.

(Chew on that one for a second.)

After reading this article, I found some new profile headlines you can use to really dial up the chemistry with women.


Now, as you can imagine, this kind of communication with women is way DIFFERENT from what MOST guys do which makes you stand out.


These are my personal favorites:

1. “Seeking pre-operative Jewish girl”

2. “Ex-girlfriend look-alike contest”

3. “I hate you already”

This kind of thing shows a woman that you’re not just another needy Wuss who is just secretly trying to “get” something from her like most men are… and more important… that you are a confident, DESIRABLE guy.

The guys who are successful with women will read it and wink to themselves, because they GET IT.

The bottom line is that this stuff is POWERFUL, it triggers ATTRACTION, and it communicates on a level with women most men will NEVER understand.

Now, the biggest ‘AH-HA’ in this article for me was a simple reminder:


You’re not for everyone.  You shouldn’t be looking for everyone. Find the type of woman you typically go after, and focus on her. This guy figured out that he saw more success when he stopped trying to impress a woman and instead tried to find a woman on the same “wavelength” as him.

Thats what I do and it works.

For instance, I’ve somehow almost ALWAYS ended up dating blondes. Not intentionally, it just happens, so I roll with it.

What was interesting was that every single person interviewed in the article had a different idea of what worked… and sadly their results showed otherwise.

Well, think about it for a minute.

97% of the guys online quit within 3 months due to lack of results, and 57% of the guys online don’t even get ONE response.

Bottom line, most men just plain don’t “get” meeting women online.

I used to be one of those guys, actually.

Looking back, I realize now I had absolutely NO CLUE what was going on in most of my interactions with women both online and in person, and let me tell you, I screwed up so many situations over the years it’s not even funny.

You see, most men have NO CLUE what they are doing online, and if you do, in many cases you have a golden opportunity to CLEAN HOUSE and have DRAMATIC success.

Ok.  I’ve given you a lot of good ideas here. They will get you started.

I want to hear from you…  What did you learn from this article?

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2 Comments to The King of Negative Personal Ads

  1. This is interesting might try some of these headlines

    Comment by Psymon — @ 11:49 AM

  2. ya, they’re pretty funny… most important though is you understand the psychology behind them. thats the key here.

    Comment by Dave M. — @ 7:39 PM

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