6 Things You Should Never Say In Your Online Dating Emails
Hey Dave here,
Hope you’re good that your online dating is rock’in!
If you’ve been reading my …umm … “Newsletter” for any length of time then you know I’m all about STEALING stuff from *other* places” and putting an Insider Internet Dating “twist” to it.
Ok, so without further ado…
6 THINGS YOU SHOULD *NEVER*
SAY IN ANY OF YOUR EMAILS.
(unless you don’t want a reply)
EMAIL BLUNDER #1: ‘I just came across your profile’
No shit sherlock.
Hey genius, of course you just came across her profile, otherwise you’d never be able to email her. You wanna keep your emails short and to the point and leave out the obvious otherwise that email becomes a book chapter (which is another no-no).
This line is lame, worn out and insincere. The BS detector goes off from a mile away with this one, so don’t use it in your messages.
EMAIL BLUNDER #2: ‘I figure that I probably won’t hear from you, but…’
This one wreaks of WUSS behavior. If you’re using this in your messages, its NO WONDER women aren’t responding.
Listen up, confidence is the #1 “thing” which attracts women, Therefore, if you’re doing THE EXACT OPPOSITE of the thing which attracts women, guess what? you’re not attracting women, you’re repelling women away.
EMAIL BLUNDER #3: ‘I’m not what you’re looking for, but…’
Uh genius, then why are you even writing?
I cant tell you how many women i’ve messaged who said they weren’t “looking” for a guy like me… thing is, how many times have you seen a woman out with a guy she keeps ‘claiming’ isn’t her type?
Here’s why: Women respond to specific male behavior. Once you learn this and know how to use it, you can attract women almost on demand.
If you’re going to write a women who’s looking for something you’re not, go in with confidence.
You can’t email a woman thinking you’re not going to get a response. ALWAYS FOCUS ON YOUR DESIRED OUTOME.
EMAIL BLUNDER #4: ‘if you decide not to write me back, can you please take a minute and tell me why.’
Yeah ok. This one REALLY wreaks of desperation.
This has I AM A WUSS written all over it. You’re looking for reasons why… it doesn’t matter why. This just means you don’t get it. (but you will as you keep reading this blog)
If you are sending this in any of your emails, go and look yourself in the mirror, then repeat after me: ‘I will not be a wuss anymore…’
Then… go ahead and slap yourself upside yo’ head for being a dumbass.
EMAIL BLUNDER #5: ‘Would you like to join our swingers group sometime?’
Ok, for real, if I even have to explain why this is so wrong… forget it.
Meeting women online is not for you. I can’t tell you why right now, but someday you’ll understand… seriously, it’s for the best.
But you do get props for cutting out the BS and trying, right?
(UNLESS …you’re sending those emails on one of those ‘adult’ sites, but even then, what do you think EVERY OTHER GUY IS SENDING?)
just a little something to think about.
EMAIL BLUNDER #6: ‘I wanted to see if there was more to you than just another pretty face’
This line wreaks of B.S. Sad thing is so many guys are STILL using it.
If you’re still using this line in your emails, you’re WAY BEHIND what your competition is doing… and that could be one of the the reasons you aren’t getting the results you expected.
The BIG “Hidden” Problem…
MOST men online come from a place of desperation and neediness… even though they’re not aware of it at all.
They NEED to “get” a woman so badly, and women can feel it to the point where it will repel many of them and convey that the guy as low value (we call this DLV – demonstrating lower value).
You need to be completely detached from caring whether or not the a woman replies to you.
Imagine an attractive woman meets two guys in a bar…
One of the guys NEEDS her acceptance and approval, cares WAY too much what she thinks …and is like a 19 year old virgin only thinking about sex, and is hell-bent on a mission to get some….
The other guy could care less if the girl is into him or not, he thinks she’s pretty cool, and attractive, but he’s a busy guy, doesn’t need the approval of a woman …and has women throwing themselves at him to the point where he can pretty much pick and chose… and in fact, he’s VERY picky…
Guess what? she will almost ALWAYS choose guy #2
Neediness, insecurity and DLV (demonstrating low value) of the first guy is repulsive to her, just like the “lets be in a serious relationship on date #2″ and “gold diggers” girls are downright scary to most single men.
But the demonstrating higher value (DHV) and cool detachment of guy #1 is most likely VERY attractive to her.
The more you NEED women and NEED validation… the less value women perceive you have… and the less likely they will want to meet you.
SNEAKY TACTIC ALERT
Hey – if you *do* want to get responses to your emails, you might want to think about being more of a challenge.
BTW, here’s a HUGE lesson for you…
Whenever you see everyone doing something, do the opposite and you’ll probably come out on top.
That’s what I did and it worked.
The big secret is…. since we already know that 97% of the guys aren’t getting results, the simple answer is don’t do what most guys do – be DIFFERENT.
See, it’s actually very simple.
Women want a CHALLENGE. Most guys aren’t being a challenge to women online.
You need to remove your “desire to acquire”.
If you chase after women, they usually run away because the very act of chasing AUTOMATICALLY makes us “beta” males.
Being a challenge creates interest in part because you convey “alpha” male traits.
Men need to learn how to give it to them.
That’s what I would do if I were you.
I’d like to hear what you think. Let me know below.