Confidence With Women – Could This Be Holding You Back?

By Dave M.




Discuss 9

What are you afraid of achieving?

Why haven’t you reached the level of success you want (with women/business/work/life)?

I hated this guy …UNTIL I saw this video.

With all the doom and gloom out there, with all these bumbling idiots telling us non-stop negativity, I thought you’d enjoy this short video, by the fresh prince of bel-air… Mr. Will Smith – one of my new favorite motivational speakers on the planet.

Nothing specifically to do about picking up women, (although everything he says can be applied to that aspect of your life).

With so many negative influences and people trying to pull us down, it takes a lot of “good stuff” to keep you growing.

I hope you enjoy this video as much as I have.

One (of many things) I got from this video is that our beliefs determine our reality… and we have a choice in what we believe.

So, ultimately, we choose our reality. If you don’t like the reality of your life, all you need to do is choose to get rid of your self limiting beliefs, and adopt new, supportive ones.

Do you think adopting that mindset could help you get more success with women?

Damn right it would!

Quick story:

Back when I first started on my path to mastering this part of my life, if you’ve read my story, you know I started out horrible with women… and was the proto-typical AFC (average frustrated chump)… I used to figure guys either had ‘it’ or didn’t… and since I obviously didn’t have ‘it’, I figured I was doomed.

Wanna know what changed?


I wasn’t going to quit.

Things couldn’t get ANY worse, so I really had nothing to lose.

It’s not like I couldn’t go out with -1 women, right?

At that point, I became a “mad scientist” and studied everything I could get my hands on… from every single site that was out there at the time, talking to other men who were better with women than I was… and I tried EVERYTHING.

Thing is… if I wasn’t determined to get this part of my life under control by any means necessary, there’s no way I would have been able to continue, despite being a numnut who made every mistake in the book.

At the end of the day, if you want to have confidence with women, you have to ask yourself one simple question…

How bad do I want it?

If you haven’t gotten help or taken massive action towards your goal of having more success with women, this is the fear of the unknown taking control of you and your comfort zone kicking it. Do you want to be comfortable or successful with women?

That’s what you have to ask yourself every day.

O.k… now, I wanna hear from you.  What did you get out of this video and how does it apply to more success with women?

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9 Comments to Confidence With Women – Could This Be Holding You Back?

  1. Thanks for sharing. He’s a great communicator…makes it easy for people to really connect with a lot of ideas on success, achievement etc without taking too much time…

    Comment by Thomas — @ 3:05 PM

  2. Outstanding video! I’ve always liked Will Smith as a person.

    As far as I’m concerned, his best movie (that I’m aware of, anyway) is “The Pursuit of Happyness” perhaps because it’s congruent with his life and personality. Did he win an Oscar for that?

    Anyway, highly recommended if you want to be inspired!


    Comment by Chuck — @ 5:37 PM

  3. “There’s no reason to have a Plan B cuz it distracts from Plan A” – SO good 🙂


    Comment by Douglas — @ 6:05 AM

  4. That was a GREAT collection of clips of Will Smith. I love that guy! I didn’t watch Fresh Prince more than a few times, but Boom Boom Shake the Room was pretty cool back in the day. What a talented mofo! Music, rap, videos, comedy, TV, then movies like Ali? PLUS Jada? Truly, he’s an unstoppable dude.

    IMHO very classy guy, and I think he smokes some dope without becoming a wasteoid like Dr. Dre, tho he’s cool and funny too. That said, Will Smith has a very clear vision of what he wants and how to get there. I wish the very best for Mr. Smith (no, NOT the Matrix guy, haha), his career and his family.

    VERY MOTIVATIONAL. He’s RIGHT that it takes a little talent, but a LOT of hard work to be successful (again, look at his body in Ali) to be good at what you love. As a musician in an up-and-coming rock band in Taiwan, seeing this motivated me a lot!!!!

    Thanks for sharing that. Might have to watch it again! – Torch

    Comment by Torch Pratt — @ 7:27 AM

  5. Thanks for the video man,what understood is the power of positive thinking,getting rid of fears,doubts,and those negative thoughts that is holding you back.

    Then the guy will focus on just how bad he want this or that believing on himself always,this apply on women as well.

    Good Luck gys!!

    Comment by Rico — @ 8:58 AM

  6. good comments guys…. posted it and wanted you to look at it from the perspective of success with women.

    see if theres anything you can get out of it to help in that aspect of your life.

    Comment by Dave M. — @ 7:45 PM

  7. Awesome tips. Confidence is key.

    Comment by samuel christian — @ 4:55 AM

  8. When I wasn’t very successful with women, a part of me just “hoped” thinks would get better. They didn’t. I realized I needed to get out there and do it myself. I resolved that I was going to do everything I could UNTIL I got to where I needed to be with women. That’s why I invested in tons of expert dating tips for men, and that why I invested in Dave M’s IID program.

    Comment by Elliott Gordon — @ 4:48 PM

  9. Thanks for sharing the video, awesom article. I found if very helpful with my confidence with women.

    Comment by Carlo — @ 11:56 PM

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